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Family Challenges

Looks to me like the minute you think you’ve got the fix for all your problems, that’s an invitation for the universe to test you.  Families.  There’s nothing like illness to bring families together in the most challenging way, or is that just my family?

My 89 year old mother has had knee replacement surgery, eight days later, she’s not yet medically fit for discharge.  My 60 year old brother arrives on the scene from abroad.  He’s the prodigal son, and, as always, my mum is so delighted, she’s telling everyone on the ward about her wonderful son.

Imagine you have a brother who left home and became an actor. He’s a good actor and becomes a big star, I mean huge.  Let’s imagine it’s Brad Pitt.  Every now and then, Brad comes home to visit the family.  When he does, everyone, and I mean everyone, family, friends, neighbours, people in shops, restaurants, complete strangers, they are all over him (except you, you are the only one who’s not that stupid) and it’s all; ”Hi Brad!  How’re you, mate?  Great to see you!  Let me buy you a drink!” 

Brad is full of charm, he flashes his cash and tells story after story about himself, everybody is rapt.  He knows how to schmooze, every person feels like they’re getting his undivided attention, that some of the magic is rubbing off on them.  Now they can say they’ve met him, that they know him personally, that he’s their mate.  Brad has a formula and it really works, flash a bit of cash and use the old charm, people will believe anything if you massage their egos.  He’s always the centre of attention, he’s always the life and soul of the party.  The prodigal son that any parent would be proud of.  He’s been keeping the party going his whole life and he can’t stop now, he’s hit sixty and his worst nightmare is that the party ever stops. 

Well, that’s my brother.  He isn’t Brad Pitt, but he’s rich and famous in his own way.  He’s a legend to many and being near him makes people feel special, even if for a moment.  They crave the chance to stand in the sunlight he casts.  Trouble is, it’s not real sunlight, it’s all done with smoke and mirrors.  To be honest, I always knew but thought, what the hey, he’s not such a bad person.  Now, I see differently, he’s a damaged person, not a giver, a taker, always has been.  He’s stuck in a nightmare, he’s the naked king that everybody sees wearing the finest clothes.  I see his nakedness. 

He came for six days, visited our mum twice because I insisted and went off partying with complete strangers the rest of the time.  I always knew there was a chasm between us but now I see just how wide it is.

Brother absent, I visit mum alone and find she’s at a physio exercise class.  As I sit and read my kindle, she arrives on the ward, laughing and chatting happily with the physio who asks if she enjoyed the class, “Yes,” she smiles, “it was good to mix with other people, it was lovely.”  Great news, I think. 

Then, she notices me and her face changes, after a moment of recognition, her face suddenly conveys pain, resignation and sorrow.  I go over and ask how she is, “Dreadful,” she says.  “How was your exercise class?” I ask, “Torture,” is her answer.  I stay four hours whilst she tells me how miserable she is, how much pain she’s in and how much she suffers.  We play her favourite game, which I brought to cheer her up, there are times when she’s absorbed and looks like she’s having fun, then she remembers not to.  The nurses tell me she’s cheerful and chatty, I hear from people visiting other patients that she’s been chatting away to them.  My aunt and uncle went in the day before and phoned me to say how well and improved she is.  But when I’m present, apparently, she’s desperate to show me how hard her life is.             



Healing The Heart of the Earth is my blog and the Home of Four Branches Healing which is the shamanic and energy healing service of myself, Amanda Reid. My blog focuses on my spiritual thoughts, feelings and experiences throughout a daily life blessed with the freedom to be and do many of my favourite things. Coupled with the lessons, messages and challenges that certain physical conditions bring to me from time to time, namely migraine aura and osteoarthritis. Sometimes, I face outwards and focus on bringing healing to others, sometimes, I need to face inwards and focus on my own healing and growth. My passions include walking in the woodlands and working with the trees, strolling along beaches and swimming in the seas. I approach most things from the perspective of a worker with energy, looking for the energetic dynamic and using it to bring healing, hope, love, faith and manifestation into my life and those of others who cross my path, in as much as I am able. My path is wholly within the vibrations of the divine, particularly the feminine principle of the divine, whose current expression is enabling a balance of male and female energy for humanity. One day, we will be ready to embrace the non-gender reality of the cosmic levels completely, but for now, the divine feminine is bringing her loving and compassionate energy to balance out and bring healing to the millenia of masculine divine energy that has been expressing itself on Earth. If there was only one thing I could say to you, it is this, you are divine. It matters not who you are, you are divine. You have no reason to accept what I say, but I still wish for you to know it, not with your thoughts and mind but in such a way that you feel and experience the truth of it, embrace and embody it. You are divine. You and every other being you know. By divine, I mean you are made up of the same stuff as what we call God, what I call the Creator. At our core, all of us are that pure, that perfect, that magnificent and that wise. We are, however, a little more complicated than that, consisting of a number of elements that go together to make who we are in this, our present personality, in this, our current incarnation on Earth. Take that divine core and add a rather confused and easily bruised personality/ego with a severe memory problem, starting out (again) as a little baby, growing up in a hurt and challenging world, amongst a population of people all going through the same thing, all trying to work it out. The divine core, at soul level, is more like a passenger, its voice not heard for all the noise of our physical existence; the desires, the emotions, the struggles, the suffering, the pain, the fears. All of it, illusion, just a very convincing one. I’m one of many who are waking up. Are you one who is waking up? Confusing, isn’t it? But worth it. There truly is no other way, this is simply the best game in town and we are ascending. Wake up with me and embrace your divine nature. You are more than welcome, you are my reason for being here.

One thought on “Family Challenges

  1. Thank you for letting me express my feelings to this earlier. Big hug dear sister, you see it for what if is now and this a part of your closure. After all there is nothing to be envious about any longer and it is you who is rich in ways that matter much more. 💙


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